Let’s get one thing straight: Your best was always enough. The problem? They weren’t.
We plant roots in relationships, praying they’ll grow into something stable, something nourishing, only to realize too late that the soil was toxic from the start. And that shit hurts. It hurts to pour your time, energy, and love into someone who never had the capacity or the willingness to give you what you needed in return.
So, let’s break this down.
The Hard Truth About Your “Best”
You gave it your all, didn’t you?
– Everyday you showed up.
– You fought for the relationship.
– Not only did you love hard. You also forgave often and stayed loyal.
But here’s the kicker: Your “best” was never the issue. The issue was their inability to:
– Love as deeply as you.
– Care as selflessly as you.
– Recognize that a relationship isn’t a one-way street.
You could’ve given them the moon, and it still wouldn’t have been enough. Why? Because you can’t fill a cup that’s already cracked.
The Bare Minimum Trap
Let’s talk about those “bare minimum expectations” the ones you didn’t even realize you were settling for.
You thought:
– “Can I just love them harder…”
– “What if I just communicate more…”
– “If I just be more patient…”
…they’d finally see your worth and step up.
But here’s what actually happened:
- Your time and energy got stolen. (Like a shell company embezzling your damn soul.)
- Emotional needs got ignored. (Every request for support, intimacy, or compassion was met with *less* than the bare minimum.)
- You ended up alone in the mud. (Where was their effort? Their loyalty? Their giving a fuck?)
The Real Lesson Here
This wasn’t about you failing. This was about them lacking:
– Emotional intelligence (They couldn’t handle conflict without playing victim.)
– Self-awareness (They never confronted their demons or trauma.)
– Character (Not everyone was raised to love like you were.)
You assumed they were built like you—empathic, resilient, willing to grow. But some people are emotional deserts. And no matter how much you pour into them? They’ll never bloom.
What To Do Now:
- Stop questioning your “best.” It was enough. They just couldn’t hold it.
- Grieve the illusion. You miss who you thought they were—not who they are.
- Redirect that love. You’ve got a lifelong commitment to yourself now.
Your Love Is a Privilege
Your ex mishandled you. That’s their loss—not yours.
So heal. Grow. And next time? Only give your best to someone who knows its value.
Because you? You’re the rare kind of love people pray for. Act like it.
Stay Inspired,
Weav
Marcus Weaver,
Weav Told Me LLC.
Saturday April 12th, 2025