You ever stop and think, why the hell does this person seem completely unaffected by losing me? Like, are they really that cold? Do they not feel anything? Maybe you’ve poured years of your life into the relationship, gave your energy, your love, your patience—and then poof, they’re gone. Or worse, they act like it’s no big deal. That sting you’re feeling? That heartbreak? Yeah, they don’t feel it. And here’s the brutal truth: they don’t see the “loss” the same way you do.

 

Here’s why: narcissists don’t experience loss like normal people. You’re dealing with someone who’s devoid of empathy, who can’t love in the ways you need, and honestly doesn’t even want to. They see people as objects to be used—not partners to nurture and care for. So when you feel abandoned, hurt, and betrayed by the ending of a relationship that you thought was real, their only concern is how much energy they’ve lost in the process of moving on to the next supply.

 

The Reality Check: They Never Saw You as a Partner

Let’s get this out of the way right now… narcissists are not capable of love in the way you think you deserve. That warm, reciprocal, honest love? Nah. Not here. In the narcissist’s world, love is conditional. It’s based on attention, validation, and a steady stream of energy that feeds their ego. As long as you were feeding them that supply, everything was fine. But the moment you stop? They’ll replace you in a heartbeat. It’s not a “loss” for them if they can find someone new to play with. They’ve already moved on, and that’s not an exaggeration.

 

I get it, though. It sucks. You thought this was real, right? You built a life with this person, made all these memories, believed all the sweet words they said. You trusted them. But guess what? They weren’t who you thought they were. And you don’t know how deep this goes until the breakup happens, and you start seeing the pieces fall into place. The lies, the manipulation, the gaslighting—it’s like peeling back layers of a person you never knew existed. You start finding out about the cheating, the constant rewriting of their past, the sob stories about their childhood, their family, their so-called “victimhood.” Cue the dramatic music—the mask finally falls, and the narcissist that you thought you knew? Yeah, they were a stranger the whole damn time.

 

The Real You vs. The Mask They Wore

Ever notice how they could go from treating you like absolute garbage at home, then turn around and act like the picture-perfect partner in public? That’s the mask. That’s the game they play. In private, they’re cold, distant, dismissive, and emotionally unavailable. You needed their support during tough times, but they gave you nothing—except maybe more guilt and blame for things that weren’t even your fault. Meanwhile, they’re out there charming everyone else, being the life of the party, basking in attention. How nice for them.

 

But here’s the thing: the version of them that you saw—the mean, selfish, emotionally-void partner—was the real version. The one who never gave you the empathy you needed. The one who ghosted you during arguments or refused to own up to mistakes. That person wasn’t a phase, wasn’t just some “bad day.” That’s who they really are. The mask they wore out in public? It’s just a shield to make sure they look like the “catch” when the relationship inevitably ends. They wanted you to believe that they were the prize. Newsflash: They were just playing a game—and you were their mark.

 

The Narcissist’s True Nature: No One Can Fix Them

Here’s where the harsh truth hits home. You weren’t the first person to try and “fix” them. And you sure as hell won’t be the last. Narcissists play this game with everyone in their lives—family, friends, partners—and they’ve managed to convince people that they’re somehow broken, needing help, attention, and love. But guess what? It’s all a manipulation tactic. They don’t want to be fixed because getting attention and validation is all they care about. They’ve spent their whole lives using other people to fill the void inside of them.

 

You didn’t lose a person who could have been your partner. You didn’t lose someone who was capable of real love. You lost a fictional character—an illusion of what they pretended to be. And now, the pieces are falling into place, and you realize just how unreal this whole thing was.

 

Why No Contact Is the Only Way to Heal

So, what does all this mean for you? First, don’t try to go back. Don’t think that somehow, you’re going to be the one to “fix” them or get them to finally love you the way you need. It’s never going to happen. Narcissists can’t love in the way that you deserve. You’ve been stuck in their cycle of manipulation and lies for long enough, and the only way out is No Contact.

 

By cutting them off completely—emotionally and physically—you create the space you need to heal, regain your self-worth, and start reclaiming the energy that was once drained by them. And trust me, as much as it might hurt now, the only way to rebuild your life is to keep them out. Letting go of the illusion is painful, but it’s also empowering. Because the sooner you break free, the sooner you get to rediscover yourself and rebuild the life you deserve—one that’s filled with real love, respect, and honesty.

 

You Didn’t Lose Anything of Value

Let’s recap: You didn’t lose a real partner in this relationship. You didn’t lose someone who was capable of true love or empathy. What you lost was a hollow character who only knew how to manipulate, control, and drain you. That’s not a loss. That’s freedom.

 

So let them go. Let them move on to the next supply. You don’t need them to be complete. You’re better off without them. You lost a fictional version of who you thought they were, but what you gain when you walk away is the real you—whole, strong, and ready to embrace a love that doesn’t come with strings, lies, or manipulation.

Take your power back!

Stay Inspired,

Weav

Marcus Weaver,

Weav Told Me LLC.

Monday January 20, 2025