Their lies weren’t mistakes. Nah, they were the narcissists tactics. Every twisted story, gaslit argument, as well as the silent treatment? Was strategically designed to drain you until you were too tired to fight back, way too exhausted to leave, and a feeling of being broken to remember your own name.

Why They Weaponized Exhaustion

Narcissists don’t just lie they manufacture chaos because:

  • A tired target is an obedient target (you stop calling out BS)
  • Confusion = control (if you’re busy tryna’ decipher lies, you’re not setting boundaries)
  • Your pain is their power source (they get off on watching you unravel)

You thought you were in a relationship. You were in a psychological war zone.

 

The 4 Types of Lies That Broke You Down 

  1. The “Reality Warp” Lie

“I never said that!”

– Texts literally in your hand? Don’t matter.

– You heard them say it? “You’re imagining things.”

  • Ultimate Goal: Make you doubt your sanity so they can own the narrative.

 

  1. The “Preemptive Strike” Lie

Accusing you of what they’re doing:

– “You’re the liar!” (while they’re cheating)

– “You’re too sensitive!” (after they screamed at you)

  • Goal: Put you on defense so you don’t notice their actual crimes.

 

  1. The “Sympathy Hoarding” Lie

Suddenly they’re:

– The victim of your “unreasonable” expectations

– “Misunderstood” because of their previous trauma

– “Trying so hard” (with zero proof)

  • Goal: Guilt-trip you into lowering standards.

 

  1. The “Future Faking” Lie

“I’ll change… just wait!”

– Empty promises about therapy

– Fake epiphanies during love-bombing

– Spoiler Alert: They never do.

  • Goal: String you along until they’re ready to discard you.

 

How to Reclaim Your Energy (After They Stole It) 

  1. Stop Explaining Yourself to Ghosts

They didn’t “misunderstand” you. They weaponized your words. No contact = no more ammunition for them.

 

  1. Redirect the Rage

That anger you feel? Use it to:

– Block them EVERYWHERE

– Delete old texts/photos (no nostalgia for abuse)

– Scream into a pillow then hit the gym

 

  1. Rewire Your Nervous System

After years of chaos, calm feels wrong (and weird AF). Try:

  • Grounding techniques (5-4-3-2-1 method)
  • Trauma therapy (EMDR, somatic work)
  • Radical rest (sleep without hyper-vigilance)

 

  1. Reclaim Your Reality

Keep a “Truth Journal” where you:

– Write what ACTUALLY happened (their lies can’t gaslight your paper)

– List every cruel thing they did (read it when you miss them)

– Track your healing wins (they hate your growth)

 

The Ultimate Truth They Fear

Their entire game relied on one lie: “You need me.”

But you? You just needed the version of you they tried to destroy.  They wanted you exhausted. Now? You’re waking up. And that’s why they’re scrambling.

Keep it moving in No contact!

 

Stay Inspired,

Weav

Marcus Weaver,
Weav Told Me LLC.
Sunday June 15th, 2025