In the words of the great American philosopher Jay-Z? “It was all good just a week ago.”
You mean to tell me:
– Y’all were just hanging out?
– Went on dates?
– Had amazing sex?
– Everything seemed straight?
Only for your calls to go unanswered. Your texts left on read. The hope evaporating because now? They’ve disappeared like a damn magician? Meanwhile, just last week they were responding before you could even put your phone down.
Interesting, ain’t it? How the intoxication of “new” gets us hooked. The brutal truth about inconsistency: We don’t take it as the red flag it is. Nah, we see it as a “challenge”.
We think:
Maybe they ain’t get that text?…
Should I call one more time?…
Wouldn’t hurt if I drive by their place to see if they’re okay, right?…
Let me check their social media to see if they’re active…
Only to realize: You never really knew them at all.
Why Ghosting Hurts So Damn Much
When you’re built with empathy and compassion… when you weren’t even looking for love, but someone pursued you? It’s easy to get swept up. But here’s what you missed:
They weren’t looking for love.
They were looking for a “distraction” or just a “good time” wasting yo’ damn time.
And while you were over here:
– Planning futures
– Sharing secrets
– Building emotional intimacy
They were over there:
– Keeping options open
– Maintaining emotional distance
– Waiting for something “better”
The Character They’re Missing (That You Have)
You know what money can’t buy? Character. And right behind that? The discipline to keep your word when the intoxicating feeling of “new” wears off.
Ask yourself:
– Were you just a rebound?
– Did they go back to their ex?
– Did they ever feel what you felt?
The painful truth? They likely saw your emotional availability as a threat to their freedom. And then told you what you wanted to hear because:
– They lacked maturity
– Only wanted physical without emotional
– Also sat there and enjoyed wasting your time
Not everyone was raised with the principle:
“If you’re not going to commit, don’t start at all.”
The Dangerous Lesson You Learned
Being ghosted teaches you one brutal lesson:
You gave UNLIMITED access to someone who didn’t earn one damn second of it.
Think about that:
– The time spent
– Your energy
– Vulnerability given
– All the hope you have
All handed over without requiring consistency first. That’s dangerous.
How to Move Forward
- Stop Checking
Every time you look at their social media or reread old texts? You’re reopening the wound.
- Accept the Blessing
Sometimes? NOT getting what you want is truly a blessing.
- Raise Your Standards
Next time? Access to you is a privilege, not a right…. RIGHT?
- Remember
Ghosting says everything you will ever need to know about them!
Final Thought
That empty feeling? It’s not loss… it’s space! Space for someone who’ll:
– Match your energy
– Respect your time
– Deserve your love
Let go. The right one won’t disappear!
Stay Inspired,
Weav
Marcus Weaver,
Weav Told Me LLC.
Monday April 21st, 2025