Let’s keep a buck for a second. If you originally thought you’d be able to *watch*? If you thought you could keep tabs on their life, use their progress as some kind of twisted competition? If you decided not to block them because “staying friends” was the way to go? Let me tell you something, you’re in for a rude awakening.

Here’s the hard truth: If your presence didn’t matter while you were there through all the love, the over-communicating, the endless attempts to mend what was already broken? Then your absence ain’t gon’ mean a damn thing to an ex who no longer cares. They don’t owe you commitment, loyalty, or consideration anymore. And that’s the cold hard reality of it.

I get it! When someone promises you forever, when they say they love you, when they spend years building a life with you, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that just because someone sticks around, it doesn’t mean they’re there for “love”. Nah. Sometimes, just sometimes? They’re there only out of convenience.

 

Have you ever considered that before the breakup, your ex had a plan? That they were holding onto your structure, your stability, your empathy, and your forgiveness for as long as they possibly could? That they were just biding their time until they could transition into their next rebound? Maybe they didn’t have the same ideas about love being long-lasting. Maybe they weren’t raised with the same loyalty and commitment you were.

See, sometimes we make the mistake of thinking our partners, our family, or even our closest friends are built like us. But even if they came from similar backgrounds, it doesn’t mean they have the same level of gratitude, emotional maturity, or intelligence that you do. And that’s not your fault, it’s just the truth!

So, when you break up with your ex, go no contact, and start focusing on yourself, it’s imperative that you don’t take your absence lightly. Sure, when we invest months or years into someone, we want a return on that investment. But here’s the thing: Your absence isn’t for them. It’s for you!

 

Think about it. How much time did you spend trying to keep your ex happy? How much of your energy, your attention and your peace did you sacrifice to make them feel loved and secure? And in the process, how much did you neglect yourself? Your growth? Your chances to revel in a relationship where you felt truly seen, heard, and understood?

We make so many compromises in relationships that we can sometimes lose ourselves entirely. So, let your absence and your silence have the kind of impact your presence should have had. Use this time to focus on you, your healing, your growth, your confidence, and your self-esteem. This isn’t about your ex. This is about reclaiming your power and understanding that access to your energy should be a fucking privilege, not a given out like its candy on Halloween.

 

You’ve already experienced what it’s like to be in a relationship where you didn’t feel valued. Now? You have the perfect opportunity to reset your standards. To gain a new perspective on what real, meaningful, and reciprocative love should look and feel like. And guess what? You deserve that.

If you do this right if you take this time to heal, grow, and rebuild the next time you have an opportunity at love? You’ll attract the right person with the kind of energy that also repels the ones who don’t deserve you. And let’s be honest, that’s the ultimate win!

So, block, delete, and ignore. Not out of spite, but out of self-respect. Because the power of ignoring your ex isn’t about them, it’s about you. It’s about reclaiming your life, your peace, and your future. And trust me, when you do that, you’ll realize that the best revenge isn’t pettiness, nah! It’s living a life so full and happy that they become irrelevant.

 

You’ve got this.

Stay Inspired,

Weav

Marcus Weaver,

Weav Told Me LLC.

Thursday January 27th, 2025