Let’s start here: Expectations! We all have them, expect love to be reciprocated, and expect effort to be matched. We expect partners to act like partners. But? And this is a big ass but, just because you give your best doesn’t mean they are or will ever be their best in return.
You could’ve spent years together. Met families. Shared beds. Built routines. But none of that answers the real question:
“When shit got hard, did they show up?”
– When the arguments hit?
– How about if money got tight?
– How life threw curveballs?
– When you needed them the most?
That’s the test. Not the good times, the messy, emotional, and hard ones.
The Wake-Up Call You Needed
Let’s keep it a buck:
– You thought you knew them at a foundational level.
– There were hopes they’d grow with you.
– You kept thinking they’d keep their word when the “new relationship energy” faded away.
But here you are… Exhausted. Unappreciated. Wondering?
“How do I let go of someone who never truly held on to me?”
The answer is simple yet also complicated… Stop seeing your worth through their eyes.
The 3-Step Detox (From Heartbreak to Healing)
- Grieve the Illusion, Not the Person
You’re not mourning them. You’re mourning:
– A potential future that won’t happen now
– The love you believed was being reciprocated
– Potential, you know? The one they never lived up to? Yeah that!
Key Truth:
“They showed you who they were, so now it’s time believe them and judge based off their actions.”
- Reclaim Your Energy (No Refunds on Time Wasted)
Your ex’s purpose in your life? To teach you what you won’t tolerate anymore.
– Neglect
– Broken promises
– The emotional laziness
Now? Redirect that love to you:
- Boundaries = “Access to me is earned.”
- Standards = “I don’t chase… I attract.”
- Self-Worth = “I’d rather be alone than not seen, heard, or understood.”
- Rewrite Your Love Story (The Right Way)
The next chapter isn’t about them. It’s about:
– Healing your nervous system (trauma lives in the body)
– Relearning what love actually looks like (consistency > chemistry)
– Choosing you first (so the wrong person can’t find you again)
The Hardest (But Most Freeing) Realization
That “sunk cost” of guilt you feel? Let it go.
– The years spent? Not wasted, necessary lesson learned.
– All that love given? Not weak, warrior-level strength.
– The time “lost”? Now fuel for your comeback.
Your ex’s final gift?
“Showing you exactly what the fuck it is you “DON’T” want, so you can then recognize what you do.”
Your New Move-On Mantra:
“I release what was to make space for what will be because I deserve love that doesn’t leave me questioning if I’m enough.”
Stay Inspired,
Weav
Marcus Weaver,
Weav Told Me LLC.
Monday May 5th, 2025